I know that there are many people reading this whose lives, for one reason or another, have not turned out the way they planned. RA could be the reason, or a contributor, to why you think you’re not where you’re supposed to be. For example, I remember the day I left college and thinking that the world was my oyster. I was going to uni, to study fashion (which I loved) and I had it all set in my head I was going to meet the man of my dreams, move away from home and live in a big city where I would work in a very glamorous and well paid job. So, pretty much none of that worked out (I mean I did meet the man of my dreams but he’s not around anymore). However I do think that this is maybe where I was supposed to be all along. I am content, perhaps a little lonely but have the comfort of friends and family close by and far away, and I am doing something I thoroughly enjoy. OK so it’s not fashion as such, but it is creative and it’s a something to call my own. Something I have built from scratch and can be proud of, so maybe that’s all I really wanted all along. I may not be earning mega bucks, far from it, but there is still time!
My point is, at one time probably early on in life we all make our plans, map out our dreams and how we are going to get there and expect things to go our way. Unfortunately, as we grow older, we find out that things don’t always go our way because, well just because life is unfair sometimes. Things happen along the way which change our minds, change our ideas of happiness and determine our paths. Whether these are good things like getting a new job or starting a new relationship or not so good things like illness and break ups, they all make us who we are today and what we will be in the future. A few people have said to me in the past how awful things must have been for me or they have complained they are not doing what they wanted too but I don’t agree with this. I have been through crappy things yes, but the outcome is that I feel I am a better person and I have learnt things about life and compassion that I probably never would have if my life had have gone the way I wanted it to. If you are not living your dream, find a new one... It obviously wasn’t your dream all along just an idea of what you thought would make you happy when the reality is life is what you make it. If you want to be happy, go out there and grab some happiness. I know it’s not easy for us all and it may take longer than others, but I made a pact with myself when I was at my lowest of low that as soon as I was able to, I would do something worthwhile with my time, something I enjoyed and something that made me truly happy. It took a while to get there, but the determination to get better so that I could at least try to fulfil some of those ambitions got me through.
A life has to have high and low points, that’s why it’s called living. Experiencing all these things is forming the people we are and who we are supposed to be, or perhaps we are not supposed to be anything at all. It could be as simple as we are who we are right now and all of our aspirations just get us through the day? Anyway, life is a pickle and I hate to get all philosophical on you, it’s just a lot of things have happened to me personally and to those I love lately that I just didn’t expect, and neither did they. It got me thinking about advice I could give them and myself about why these things happen. How are you supposed to make sense of something that is devastating and changes your whole life, seemingly for the worse? Well this is the only thing my little mind could come up with... maybe what you thought was meant to be wasn’t right in the first place and these moments and how you come through them will ultimately define your future and lead to something better where you are happier than you ever imagined. Well... that’s just my theory anyway.